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caribbeansista
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The love and fear of Allah swt makes u love and value u're spouse ...............if the bro is an honest god fearing guy and he loves me then y not ,i bet i'll probably start liking him..........y marry a guy who don't love you .I once had a proposal from a guy who wanted to marry another sista but his parents did'nt agree so they made him consider me. i was like No way bro go back the way u came cos i'm no back bencher and guess what he's married to the same gal and happy as ever .......Allahu aalum
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owais
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I think this proves the validity of Arranged Marriages, and removes the excuse of "I dont know him/her!"
Allahoalim
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owais
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Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as having said: "A woman without a husband (or divorced or a widow) must not be married until she is consulted, and a virgin must not be married until her permission is sought. They asked the Prophet of Allah (may peace be upon him): How her (virgin's) consent can be solicited? He (the Holy Prophet) said: That she keeps silence. (Translation of Sahih Muslim, The Book of Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 008, Number 3303)"
Source : http://www.usc.edu/dept/MSA/fundamentals/hadithsunnah/muslim/008.smt.html
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Fozia
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[slm]
That's unfair, Br Owais was talking about arranged marriages.
A forced marriage is a completely different kettle of fish.
Wassalaam
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Jannah
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wsalam,
well brother Iowais.. that's interestin' cuz i notice you didn't post an answer either!!  (btw...weird we have an iowais and an owais can get a bit confusin...)
so well at first when we were discussing this basically we were talking about marriages and if there could truly be a balance where both people liked/loved/sacrificed for each other to the same extent because we noticed some marriages where one person ends up sacrificing a lot more (usually the sister) and then we thought about pre-marriage and noticed that usually someone likes someone, but that someone doesn't like them back, but likes someone else and since ppl are not perfect, couples end up settling with what they believe is important and that might/might not include love.
anyway our theory was that most sisters would say they would rather marry someone who loved them and that most brothers would say they would rather marry someone they loved.... but we guess that's wrong now because the overwhelming majority of people said they'd rather have someone who loved them (except for one person who said they'd rather love some1 but then later tried to deny it so i dunno). i think for women to be happy they do need someone that loves them and because that person who loves them would sacrifice/do things for them that the other one who didn't love them might not, and because the nature of women is such i think over time she would get attached to someone that loves her and would be happy with that. originally that was my answer.
but now after thinking about it for this long while i'm almost at the point where i think id rather marry someone i love... because then i'd be happy and could try to make that person happy... so in the end i don't know... hopefully won't have to make that choice except in the hypothetical realm
ws
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Jannah
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wsalam,
ahlan wa sahlan bro... yeah i remember that time too.. guess like all muslim communities ours suffered too a bit during these last 5 years post 9/11. i kinda think of pre 9/11 as the good ole' days. anyways alhamdulillah ala kulli haal and yes u still haven't answered...
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muhsen
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I stand on my words..Like now...
I would mary them who loves me....
One who loves you, can forgive your faults, one who dont loves you, can ruin your life....
My wife loves me alot and i love her alot.... I wish that my wife enter inshaAllah to jannah, i wish for her, she will meet with hadrat Aisha r.a ...
me is lost....
After my sickness...She had so much patience with me, these days, as I was in trouble ... She knew i loved some sister but my wife , she doesnt leave me. Because she loved me..That is true love...
Love is true when you leave somethink what you like and to your self for him/her..Love needs pain and suffer...
How will you make try some1 happy, even he/she doesnt love you... You can do all sort of thinks that will never work. If it is working, then is still love..
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sugarqueen
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In Life there are never just "two" options...there is ALWAYS the choice to remain single...i rather be a free bird to be able to come and go as i please then married to someone i just "liked" or married to someone who didnt love me back.
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lala marcy
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salaam,
Sing it sister sugarberry sing it....llikewise brother Muhsen...what better thing is there than to love and be loved...... Why settle.
InshaAllah all you guys will love and be loved in return.
with love
peace....
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