[MADRASA] Online chats, Online Relationships
[MADRASA] Online chats, Online Relationships
Anonymous
07/13/01 at 00:53:40
why is it that when muslims are in chat..there is always a
brother that ruins the topic by asking for a sister's marriage status...
I dont understand why people are forced to online relationships
they say they are good muslims but then i dunno it just puzzzles me to
say
WHY?
Re: Why
Kashif
12/18/00 at 20:04:47
assalaamu alaikum

Yeah.. even when i meet new brothers, almost always the 3rd or fourth question is: "are you married bro?"

It does annoy me somewhat.

Kashif
Wa Salaam
NS
Re: Why
meraj
12/18/00 at 20:12:02
as salaamu alaikum,

equally irritating: "asl?"

grrrrr....
Re: Why
Kashif
12/18/00 at 20:37:52
assalaamu alaikum

For some odd reason, the following female comeback comes to mind:

M: Haven't I seen you some place before?
F: Yes, that's why I don't go there anymore.

Kashif
Wa Salaam

PS except for rare cases, i'm pretty much in opposition to things like online chats. The danger is immeasurable, and i don't think that the ulama ho are asked for a ruling on this are aware of what can and does go on there.


Re: Why
bhaloo
12/19/00 at 01:45:47
Asalaam alaikum,

Kashif is absolutely right.  Its also a tremendous waste of time and very addictive.

Dr. Siddiqi (president of ISNA) had this to say about online chats:

Internet chat is very similar to writing letters or talking to someone on phone. Actually it is a combination of both. Muslims have to observe the same rules as they observe in writing letters or making telephone calls. Islam does not permit love letters or intimate conversations between males and females who are not married to each other. In all our correspondence and conversations we must observe Haya or modesty. Boys and girls should not chat with each other just for socialization and to pass time. It is Haram for a non-mahram Muslim male and female to indulge in long conversations with each other unless it is necessary for education or for business. All conversation must be decent. The Qur'an reminds us again and again that all our words are recorded and we shall be held accountable for our words as well as our deeds on the Day of Judgment. (See Al-Ahzab 33:70; Qaf 50:18)

If one finds an interesting partner through Internet and there is a desire to know more about each other in order to get married, then one should involve one's elders in this matter. Let the elders or some responsible friends do the investigation and negotiation on your behalf. Even when you want to talk to that person, it is good to have an elder present in this chat. In Islam the Khalwah with the non-Mahram female (ajnabiyyah) is forbidden. Khalwah of course occurs when a male and a female are alone in person. But a virtual Khalwah can also happen through conversation by phone or Internet. Just as men and women should not be alone with each other, in a similar way they should not be alone to talk to each other on phone or via Internet chat, especially if this conversation is about personal matters.
NS


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